The Right Person or The Person Right Now!

It would take writing a book for a lifetime for me to be able to express (and discover!) everything I think about love. I like to think of myself as in a state of constant growth, with God always picking me up and teaching me as I fall and fail. Like a hunk of ore held in the center of the flames, I feel the crush and the heat of being refined. Yes, I hope these are growing pains. I hope the fact that I look back on conceptions I had and think myself mistaken is proof of growth and not unsteadiness.

Given the topsy turvy state of affairs when it comes to relationships, who would you choose between? The right person? Or the person right now? To answer that, let me give you a brief summary of what is the right person in my book.

When it comes to matters like this, I would still like to believe that despite everything I have been through, I am still a romantic. There has always been a criteria to be fulfilled when looking for that next person to go out with. The right girl for me would always have to be smart and open to new things. It wasn't until later that I realized every girl I've had a relationship with wasn't just smart and adventurous, they have to be emotionally dysfunctional as well.

Of course, that's usually where the criteria for me ended. I don't know why I never bought into it, but I've always had an inkling as a child that fairy tale mockups of our perfect prince or princess just cannot exist.

Then again, I've never really had any problems with women. Don't get me wrong, while it has always been easy for me to go out on a date with any girl, it's always been been hard to find someone I can get into. The past few years however have been fulfilled by those right women. While the past may have been a bittersweet tale of love lost. It's present however is one of remarkable discoveries.

The irony in this is that while I may have lost someone who was the right person from the very beginning. I found a person right now who every day is looking more and more like someone who is my perfect half.

So what do I get from all this? That finding the right person doesn't always mean a perfect ending? That there is no harm in being with the person right now if there was a remote chance that something more might develop? It doesn't take a genius to realize both those points. I'm not saying that we should all settle for the person right now and hope for the best.

I'm just saying that it's always good to have a sensible choice of traits in your head and then go with the flow. I don't know, maybe in my case, I know no one else has that kind of luck in relationships. But that doesn't discount the most important lesson here.

Sometimes it isn't about the right person or the person right now. Sometimes it's about the right person, right now. You never know what you might discover and sometimes you might find yourself with a story you just don't want to end.

And that's my answer to the question. What about yours?

PS: As regards most of the comments. YES! I'm finally GETTING MARRIED! and NO! It's not a wedding...yet!

The MALE PRIDE!!

Christ was a man, Moses was a man, and Mohammed was a man. The conclusion that I draw from this is ‘Thou shalt never apologize for being a man’.

As a man in this world, we have been given the responsibility to treat women as a gift from God. The Lord created man in His image, and from man he formed woman. Don't worry, this is not a lesson from the book of Genesis, all I am saying is that God has trusted man to take care, protect and respect the lady which was created through him

It's not uncommon these days for women to be the major breadwinners in a relationship. In my experience, some men have no issue with it, others do. Even in those relationships where the man is not threatened by this there can still be issues with this role reversal. Traditionally, men were bought up to be the provider for their family; women were raised to be the nurturer. What happens when the woman is the major provider? When she is not free to spend her days preparing the home for the husband's arrival in from a long day at work? Do the typical gender roles in marriage still apply? I think they have to, to some degree, for the relationship to truly work. Whether the man is the main provider or not, he needs to feel that he is needed by his wife, that she needs him to protect her, care for her, defend her.

Looking around today, our world seems skewed and confused. So may people, like my blogger friend, are asking: Who is who? Who does what? Are we in a contest to see who is better-men or women? Is that what life is about? And if no one knows who they are and what they are supposed to be doing, what about the youth? Who will they grow up to be?

Let me state unwaveringly that I am proud of being a man and would never have it any other way. After all, are not the words “civilization” and “men” synonymous? Yes, it must tax the brain of even the most hardened radical feminist deceiver to effectively obscure the fact that so many cultural achievements are a direct result of masculine creativity and energy.

All of modern life’s infrastructure—homes, buildings, plumbing, clean water, medicine, sanitation, electronics, law, literature, art, and bountiful food—were built or made possible through the sweat and labor of men. A true irony here is that many of the most virulent male-haters are also the people that would fare the worst if they isolated from all of society’s accoutrements. What would they do without their Valium and Pain relievers, including contraceptive pills?

Women happen to be some of the most pampered and spoiled individuals on the planet.

It is clear that men and women have equal means of intelligence, but all analysis of psychometric results showcases men having considerably more overall scatter within their profiles than women. More of us are found on the extremes which half the time is not such a good thing at all. Mental retardation, just like genius, is most often a “male thang.” The history of men is a tale of valiant heroes and spectacular failures, and I suspect the future will not change this.

When we are born, our mothers get the compliments and the flowers. When we are married, our brides get the presents and the publicity and even when we eventually die; our widows get the life insurance. Are those not enough? Prolly not…for the male haters!

What EXACTLY do women want to be liberated from? Or succinctly put, why should a blogger state that men do nothing but EAT, FUCK AND DIE!!